Marriage

       I can't even begin to tell you how many times I have heard in my life that marriage is hard, and I just brushed it off thinking that everyone saying that was crazy, especially because living with Nick for a year before we got married I thought we had most all of our kinks worked out. Well ladies and possibly gentleman. Marriage is hard. Especially being pregnant, don't get me wrong. I love my husband, he is the light of my life, although during my pregnancy I have wanted to kill him on more than one occasion. Thank heavens for him putting up with me because I have never felt so crabby in my life as I have since I entered my 3rd trimester. 
       In any event, the last couple of weeks I have felt a little hopeless in marriage and everything. I am sure this can be contributed to my endless crazy hormones but none the less. A friend posted a blog post on Facebook today that was titled, "Marriage Isn't For You". This grabbed my attention and so I began to read this article. I want you to know it is not at all what it seems, and I believe it is something that everyone can benefit from reading, single, married, or in a relationship. I am going to post a link to it incase you want to read the entire article, but I am going to share a little blurb of the part the just made my heart sing and reminded me exactly why Nick & I got married. (Not that I forgot, but its hard to keep your mind on the positive when there is a lot of stress at home.)

“You’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this real simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself,you’re marrying for family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

       Upon Nick & I finding out we were expecting, we were very excited. We had been together for a year, living together pretty much that entire time. Something that was always important to me was that my parents were together and I was raised in a full family unit, I know that everyone is that lucky. Nick fortunately was raised the same way. We had discussed marriage before, but it wasn't something we were immediately planning on, until we found out about our little jelly bean. We love her so much I just can't even wait to have her in my wrapped in my arms, and to see Nick with her I just know she is going to have him wrapped around her finger. My entire pregnancy he was telling everyone I was having a boy until the day we found out she was a girl. You should have seen the devastation he carried on his face, I know it took a minute to get used to the idea of a little girl but I can see him warming up already and she's not even fully cooked. :)

http://www.forwardwalking.com/marriage-isnt-for-you/